November 16, 2025 — Episode #96

Content note: this episode includes a story about an online predator targeting a young teenage girl, along with references to teen suicide risk and pornography.

Having worked through 14 possible signs of teen rebellion over recent weeks, Jerry and Becky Drace add a 15th to the list: internet addiction — and spend the rest of the hour unpacking what that actually looks like in a home.

They first close out a few leftover “issues to consider,” including peer pressure around drugs and alcohol, a family history of mental illness, and unusual stress in a teen’s life, noting that stress and rejection are common precursors to depression and suicidal thinking. They then define internet addiction as an inability to control time spent online despite the strain it puts on relationships, school, or work, citing a statistic that 88.5 percent of Americans use the internet regularly. From there they walk through the first three recognized types of internet addiction: cyber-sex addiction (pornography, chat rooms, and webcam services), net compulsions (online gambling and shopping), and cyber relationships. The episode ends with a sobering story about a stalker who had been posing online as a young teen to a 12- or 13-year-old girl and showed up at her family’s front door after she mentioned her parents would be out for the evening.

Topics discussed:

• Recap of 14 possible signs of teen rebellion covered so far
• Peer pressure, family mental-health history, and stress as risk factors
• Defining internet addiction and how common internet use has become
• Cyber-sex addiction, including pornography and chat rooms
• Net compulsions: online gambling and compulsive shopping
• Cyber relationships and the danger of online predators
• A story about an online predator targeting a young teenage girl
• Suggestions for a family “media-free” day

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November 9, 2025 — Episode #95

Jerry and Becky Drace map out three distinct stages of adolescence — early, middle, and late teens — and explain what’s changing in a child during each one.

They describe the early teen years (roughly ages 9 to 13) as a time when kids begin testing who really holds authority in their lives, the middle teens (13 to 15) as a stretch marked by identity-seeking and learning to face real consequences for the first time, and the late teens (15 to 19) as a period where delayed rebellion can surface if a teen was raised either too strictly or too permissively. They spend time on blended-family dynamics, urging couples to agree on how discipline will work before they marry, and share a cautionary story about a young married man whose lack of any real upbringing eventually cost him his marriage. The episode closes with three questions parents can ask themselves if they suspect a teen is rebelling: does their behavior seem extreme compared to their peers, have they suddenly lost interest in an activity they used to love, and are they showing sudden flashes of anger.

Topics discussed:

• The three stages of adolescence: early, middle, and late teens
• Why blended families should agree on discipline before marriage
• Keeping consistency between rules and consequences
• A cautionary story about an undisciplined young adult
• Extreme behavior compared to peers as a warning sign
• Sudden loss of interest in a favorite activity
• Sudden anger or outbursts as a possible cry for help
• Building personal confidence in children to resist peer pressure

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November 2, 2025 — Episode #94

Content note: this episode discusses drug addiction, including a story about a family confronting a crack house, and briefly references a physical assault on a teacher.

Levi returns for a second week as Jerry and Becky continue building out their list of possible signs of rebellion in teenagers.

The show opens with disregard for family values — they suggest families write out their shared values and Scriptures together and turn it into a piece of art for the wall, a simple way to keep those commitments visible at home. They move into disregard for authority figures, including a story about a junior-high teacher who was physically attacked after trying to break up a fight, then cover general disrespect and drastic drops in school grades as signs parents should watch for. The second half of the show tackles drinking and drug use, including Jerry’s account of helping a family retrieve their son from a crack house years after his first exposure to marijuana as a young teenager, along with a caution about how easily accessible prescription medication in a home medicine cabinet can become a gateway to abuse. They close by previewing next week’s topic: eating disorders.

Topics discussed:

• Writing out a family’s shared values and Scriptures
• Disregard for authority figures, including a story of violence against a teacher
• Disrespect and drastic drops in school grades
• Peer pressure around drinking and preparing kids to say no
• A drug-addiction rescue story involving a family and a crack house
• Prescription medication in the home as a possible gateway to addiction
• Genetic risk factors for alcoholism
• Preview of next week’s topic: eating disorders

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October 26, 2025 — Episode #93

Content note: this episode includes a discussion of self-harm (cutting) among teenagers.

Jerry and Becky Drace kick off a new list of “possible signs of rebellion” in teenagers, and bring in an unusual expert to help define the term: their 11-year-old grandson, Levi.

Levi defines rebellion in his own words as “going against what your parents tell you,” and shares his thoughts on choosing good friends and standing up to bullies. From there, Jerry and Becky begin working through a list of warning signs gathered from parents at their conferences over the years: an absence of remorse after wrongdoing, body piercings, breaking curfew, a sudden change in fashion style (illustrated with a story about a teenage girl who came downstairs dressed head-to-toe in black overnight), a shift in friend groups, and cutting as a way some teens express emotional pain they can’t otherwise voice. They close the hour on two subtler signs — deep sighing and eye-rolling as forms of quiet disrespect — and a broader disregard for family values.

Topics discussed:

• An 11-year-old’s own definition of rebellion
• Choosing good friends versus dealing with bullies
• Absence of remorse as an early warning sign
• Body piercings and what they may (or may not) signal
• Breaking curfew and setting consequences
• A sudden change in fashion style as a possible red flag
• Cutting and self-harm in teenagers
• Deep sighing, eye-rolling, and quiet disrespect toward parents

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October 19, 2025 — Episode #92

Content note: this episode discusses teen suicide, fatal accidents, and the grief of losing a child.

Jerry and Becky Drace close out their long-running series on the characteristics of the teenage years with a sobering final thought: the choices made — and sometimes the accidents that happen — during adolescence can determine how long a life lasts.

They open with current statistics on teen suicide, noting that 16 to 17 percent of teenagers seriously consider taking their own lives, and connect the despair many teens feel to too much unsupervised time online and too little parental involvement. From there they share two contrasting stories: a family who lost both of their sons in one night to a drunk-driving crash, and the accidental death of one of their grandson’s friends in a single-car wreck, making the point that tragedy doesn’t always follow a bad decision. They also mention a young public figure who committed his life to his faith as a teenager and was later killed as a young adult, having still left a lasting impact in a short life. The back half of the show turns to grief: the value of a friend who simply sits with you, grief-recovery groups, journaling through hard emotions, and the danger of marriages fracturing after the loss of a child. Becky and Jerry close with a theological reflection on God’s foreknowledge and Job’s declaration, “I know that my Redeemer lives.”

Topics discussed:

• Teen suicide statistics and warning signs
• Why parents should limit unsupervised internet and cell-phone time
• A family’s grief after losing two sons in a drunk-driving accident
• Accidental death versus death from poor decisions
• The “long leash” approach to letting teens make some of their own choices
• Grief recovery resources and journaling as a coping tool
• How churches and grandparents can support grieving families
• Finding peace with unanswered “why” questions after a loss

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October 12, 2025 — Episode #91

Jerry and Becky Drace turn to an old farming image — the ox yoke — to explain why the teenage years are such a critical window for shaping character. It’s a picture of discipline that binds a stronger, more mature guide to a younger one still learning to walk a straight path.

The Draces trace the idea back to Lamentations 3:27, “It is good for a man to bear the yoke in his youth,” describing how a lead ox trains a younger one to walk a straight furrow, much like Jesus described His own yoke as easy because He walks the straight path Himself. They discuss who should carry that yoke in a family, ideally a godly father as spiritual leader, while spending real time honoring single mothers raising children alone and urging men in the church not to shirk the responsibility of mentoring a boy who needs a strong Christian influence. Jerry recalls being away frequently for ministry travel early in their marriage, and how he and Becky worked to make sure he was still present for the moments that mattered most to their children.

They also share lighter stories, including meeting a woman with five children during a medical appointment and an old story about a family with twenty-five children, to make the point that family size doesn’t change the calling to disciple every child in the Word. Jerry recounts a teenage boy who once told him he was running away to join the Marines just to escape his parents’ rules, using it to illustrate that every stage of life carries its own “drill sergeant” of discipline. The couple return often to the idea that God’s Word has to sit at the center of the yoke, the thing keeping parent and child moving in the same direction, and close with thoughts on staying consistent as parents, trusting God with their children’s future in an unpredictable world, and why they believe grandparenting, not parenting, is the truest test of how well the discipleship stuck.

Topics discussed:

• The ox yoke as a picture of discipline (Lamentations 3:27)
• Fathers as spiritual leaders, and encouragement for single moms seeking mentors
• Jerry’s ministry travel and staying present for family milestones
• Keeping unity and consistency between parents on discipline
• A teenage boy’s attempt to escape parental rules by joining the Marines
• The Word of God as the center of the “yoke” connecting parent and child
• Trusting God with children’s futures in an unpredictable world
• Grandparenting as the ultimate test of a parent’s legacy

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October 5, 2025 — Episode #90

Content note: brief, non-graphic references to child abuse within church settings and to the assassination of a well-known political commentator.

Jerry and Becky Drace continue their series on the teenage years by asking parents a pointed question: who is really mentoring your teenager? Drawing on their own upbringing and decades of ministry, they make the case that mentors shape a young person’s character and faith as much as, or more than, parents realize.

Becky and Jerry each recall the mentors who marked their own faith growing up — grandmothers who modeled Scripture reading, a pastor’s wife known for her contagious Christian walk, a devoted prayer warrior who taught Becky to fast and pray, a musician friend whose joy in Christ was infectious, a beloved children’s Sunday school teacher, and Sunday school teachers from Jerry’s boyhood churches who left a lasting impression. They also mention mentors from their years in ministry, including respected Bible teachers and a well-known evangelist’s team they corresponded with behind the scenes. The couple stresses that parents must actively vet coaches, teachers, youth leaders, and other adults — including at Christian schools — who influence their kids, and that single moms in particular should carefully screen any man who mentors their sons. They caution that church should be the safest place for children but isn’t always, urging parents never to let their guard down, and they reference the recent assassination of a political commentator as a sobering example of how negative mentors and brainwashing can steer a young person toward a dark path. Scripturally, they point to 1 Kings 18:12 and the mentoring relationship of Samuel and Eli as biblical models. Becky also shares the powerful story of her son Drew’s premature birth, when John 3:16 and John 14:27 became deeply personal to her, and the couple close by noting that Jesus himself poured His life into mentoring twelve disciples.

Topics discussed:

• Why mentors matter as much as parents in shaping teenagers
• Personal stories of the hosts’ own childhood and ministry mentors
• Vetting coaches, teachers, and youth leaders your children look up to
• Single parents and screening male mentors for sons
• Guarding against abuse and complacency within church settings
• Negative mentors, brainwashing, and current events as a cautionary example
• Scripture: 1 Kings 18:12, Samuel and Eli, John 3:16, John 14:27
• Becky’s testimony of Drew’s premature birth and Jesus as the ultimate mentor

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September 28, 2025 — Episode #89

Jerry and Becky Drace continue their conversation on the teenage years, this week zeroing in on why instant gratification is so powerful for teens and how parents can help them learn to pause, think, and choose wisely.

Jerry describes “delayed discounting” — the tendency to skip counting the cost of a decision — as the root of much teenage impulsiveness, whether it shows up in cheating on a test, cutting corners at work, or giving in to peer pressure. They read Ecclesiastes 11:9-10 on rejoicing in youth while remembering that God brings all things into judgment, and talk through the Garden of Eden and Joseph’s brothers as classic examples of peer pressure at work. Jerry also uses the story of a biblical king who acted on impulse and later wrote what became Psalm 51, a model of repentance, to show teens that instant gratification has consequences but grace and restoration are always available.

The Draces also talk through what parents can watch for as instant gratification shifts into anxiety or depression — withdrawal, isolation, or a child who won’t leave their room — and stress the value of a listening ear over judgment. They encourage keeping the door open the way the father did for the prodigal son, monitoring kids’ phones and knowing their friends’ families, and using consistent family time (even just once a week) to keep communication open. Becky points to their own family’s practice of checking their grandchildren’s phone activity as a simple, practical safeguard.

Topics discussed:

• Instant gratification and “delayed discounting” in teenagers
• Ecclesiastes 11:9-10 on rejoicing in youth while remembering accountability
• Peer pressure, from the Garden of Eden to Joseph’s brothers
• A biblical king’s story and Psalm 51 on repentance
• Monitoring kids’ cell phones and online activity
• Recognizing anxiety and depression in teens
• Keeping the door open for a child who makes bad choices, like the prodigal son
• Family time and using a family devotional Bible as a parenting resource

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September 21, 2025 — Episode #88

Content note: this episode includes a brief, non-graphic mention of a young man’s drug addiction and subsequent suicide, shared as a cautionary example.

Jerry and Becky Drace dig into why teenagers — and honestly, all of us — crave instant gratification, introducing the psychological term “delayed discounting” and tracing the idea all the way back to the Garden of Eden.

The Draces open by describing teenagers as wired to seek immediate reward, pointing to Ecclesiastes 11:9-10 on the fleeting nature of youth. They connect the modern psychology term “delayed discounting” to the old-fashioned notion of instant gratification, and identify Adam and Eve’s decision in the Garden as the Bible’s first example: Satan’s temptation of Eve, the doubt he planted, and Adam’s failure to intervene are discussed as the root of humanity’s ongoing struggle with sin and impatience. They also touch on brain science, noting that humans are wired from a “hunter-gatherer” past and that dopamine drives the craving for quick reward, especially in teens.

From there the conversation turns practical: rather than lecturing children, parents are encouraged to ask questions that help kids reason through consequences, to stay consistent with boundaries, and to build daily Scripture reading and prayer into family life, along with finding support groups of other Christian parents. The Draces also address instant gratification in the sexual realm — rising rates of births outside marriage, cohabitation among churchgoing young people, and the claim that the Bible doesn’t address premarital sex or homosexuality, which they push back on directly. They reference Sodom and Gomorrah and the story of Lot’s wife as biblical illustrations of the danger of pursuing immediate desire over obedience. A story about a friend’s son whose path from a single risky decision led to drug addiction and eventually suicide underscores the stakes of teaching children to say no to peer pressure. The episode closes with a preview that the topic will continue the following week.

Topics discussed:

• Delayed discounting vs. old-fashioned “instant gratification”
• Ecclesiastes 11:9-10 on youth and judgment
• Adam and Eve’s temptation as the Bible’s first instance of instant gratification
• Dopamine, brain wiring, and hunter-gatherer instincts
• Practical parenting: asking questions, consistency, family devotions, support groups
• Premarital sex, cohabitation, and what Scripture actually says
• Sodom and Gomorrah and Lot’s wife as cautionary examples
• Peer pressure, addiction, and teaching kids to say no

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September 14, 2025 — Episode #87

Content note: this episode briefly references a school/church shooting and touches on family verbal and physical abuse in general terms.

Many of our most vivid lifetime memories are formed during the teenage years — Jerry and Becky Drace explore how parents and grandparents can be intentional about shaping those years for good.

Jerry and Becky open by continuing their series on the characteristics of teenagers, starting with the idea that lifetime memories are disproportionately made in the teen years (and sometimes even earlier childhood). Becky shares memories of summers with her grandmother watering flowers and gathering bouquets for church, and both hosts reflect on Ecclesiastes 12:1’s call to “remember your Creator in the days of your youth.” They discuss how today’s teens spend far more time than past generations on phones and devices rather than working or building real-world friendships, citing a claim that teens can spend around 30 hours a week outside of school on their devices. Becky warns parents to monitor not just how much time but how their kids are spending it online, cautioning about predators in chat rooms, especially targeting pre-teens.

The conversation turns to the importance of boundaries and rules, including an anecdote about someone who found the discipline of military life (“The Green Book” of military rules) to be an eye-opening contrast to a childhood with almost no structure. Jerry and Becky then share family travel memories — Jerry’s move from Tennessee to Kentucky mid-eighth-grade, Becky’s family road trips and first taste of a Florida orange, and international mission trips that exposed their children to cultures in China, Hong Kong, and Korea — arguing that travel, even a short local outing, is an education children never forget. They emphasize that home should be a “safe zone” even amid instability or a violent neighborhood, referencing a recent school shooting as a somber example of why children need to feel safe, and noting that abusive adults were often themselves exposed to abuse as children. The episode closes with a look at flawed families throughout Scripture — Joseph, Cain, Abel and Seth, Noah, Samuel, Eli, Esther, and even the household Jesus grew up in — as proof the Bible doesn’t shy away from messy family stories, and a reminder to build precious family memories rather than only troubling ones.

Topics discussed:

• Why lifetime memories are largely made during the teenage years
• Ecclesiastes 12:1 and remembering God in youth
• Screen time, social media, and online safety for teenagers
• The importance of household rules, boundaries, and discipline
• Family road trips and international travel as educational experiences
• Creating a “safe zone” at home amid instability or violence
• A recent school shooting and childhood exposure to abuse
• Biblical families with complicated pasts (Joseph, Seth, Esther, Jesus’s siblings)

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