February 9, 2025 — Episode #58

Content note: this episode includes a story involving a spouse’s pornography addiction and coming out as gay, and a separate account from a woman who describes plotting for two years to kill her unfaithful ex-husband before finding forgiveness.

Continuing their series on divorce, Jerry and Becky Drace focus on what they call the “mental adjustments” people face after a marriage ends.

They walk through loneliness, damaged self-esteem, loss of motivation, guilt, and depression, encouraging listeners to seek out a qualified Christian counselor rather than carry these burdens alone. The conversation turns to intense anger and the temptation toward revenge, including one woman’s account of the bitterness she carried after discovering her husband’s affair, and how she eventually confronted him with forgiveness even though he never apologized. The episode closes with a look at the social and vocational fallout of divorce — lost friendships, workplace changes, and the financial strain of starting over.

Topics discussed:

• Loneliness and self-esteem after divorce
• Guilt, motivation, and depression following a failed marriage
• The importance of finding a qualified Christian counselor
• Managing intense anger and resisting the pull toward revenge
• A story of moving from bitterness to forgiveness after infidelity
• Loss of friendships and social stigma after divorce
• Vocational and financial adjustments for newly single parents

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