March 30, 2025 — Episode #65

Jerry and Becky Drace wrap up their series on the positives of divorce, discussing what it means to no longer walk on eggshells, the value of total honesty between spouses, and what happens when husband and wife are spiritually mismatched.

The couple talks through several more “lessons learned” from people who’ve been through divorce: no longer needing to be defensive, no longer needing to justify every decision, and the relief some feel at gaining independence from a controlling spouse. They have a frank conversation about honesty regarding past relationships and health, noting how a lack of disclosure can put a spouse at risk. Jerry and Becky also explore what happens in a marriage when one spouse leads a family spiritually and the other resists it, encouraging couples to discuss faith seriously before marriage rather than after. They close by previewing next week’s topic: how a divorce differently affects children at different ages and stages of life.

Topics discussed:

• Feeling free from being defensive in a marriage
• Recognizing controlling or manipulative behavior in a spouse
• Honesty about past relationships and health before marriage
• The value of good Christian counseling for both spouses
• Learning from — but not being stuck in — your past
• Spiritual leadership and unequal commitment to faith in marriage
• How divorce affects children differently across age groups

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