October 4, 2026 — Episode #141

Leah Sutton avoids praying for a future spouse, and her reason may surprise you: the more she prayed for one, the more discontent she became.

Leah Sutton, a residence director for freshmen at Union University, returns for a second week with Jerry and Becky in their series on single young adults. Leah shares what she looks for when getting to know someone: a person who is walking closely with the Lord on their own, has mentors, and is active in a church. She and the hosts talk about how to tell whether someone is being honest, why decisions made out of desperation so often go wrong, and why a person who is content with who they are is better prepared for marriage than one hoping to be completed by someone else. Leah offers a candid look at the downsides of singleness, including safety concerns, making big decisions with no one to consult, loneliness, and doing ministry alone. The conversation also touches on social media, couples moving in together, and whether churches talk enough about singleness.

Topics discussed:

• Using the freedoms of singleness to serve others
• What to look for in someone you’re getting to know: faith, mentors, and church involvement
• Telling whether someone is being honest: follow-up questions, actions that match words, and the company they keep
• Why decisions made out of desperation lead to bad outcomes
• Contentment in singleness and why no one “completes” you
• Why Leah doesn’t pray for a spouse, and how others in her church pray for her
• Qualities worth putting on a list, like self-control and gentleness
• Disadvantages of singleness: safety, loneliness, and making decisions alone
• Social media, living together before marriage, and how churches can talk about singleness

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