June 15, 2025 — Episode #74

Continuing their series on divorce, Jerry and Becky share what people who’ve been through a divorce say they’d look for if they ever remarried — starting with finding a genuinely committed Christian rather than someone who merely looks the part.

They discuss how to evaluate a partner’s faith over “the seasons of life” rather than a set length of time, why a strong self-image built on humility matters more than ego, and the importance of getting to know a potential spouse’s family since patterns often repeat across generations. Jerry tells a lighthearted story about vetting his daughter’s date, and Becky shares how her family background shaped her view of sharing and selfishness. They also discuss a friend’s experience of being abandoned by her husband during a serious cancer diagnosis and use it to underscore the importance of supporting a spouse through illness, plus the value of finding a mate who communicates and doesn’t rely on alcohol or drugs.

Topics discussed:

• Evaluating a partner’s faith over time, not by a timeline
• Humility versus ego in a healthy self-image
• Getting to know a potential spouse’s family background
• A father’s approach to vetting his daughter’s date
• Supporting a spouse through serious illness
• Decline in couple communication after the first year of marriage
• Avoiding alcohol and drug use as a relationship red flag

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