June 22, 2025 — Episode #75

Jerry and Becky continue collecting real “red flags” that divorced men and women wish they had noticed while dating, from a lack of affection modeled at home to spouses who wanted separate vacations.

They talk about how children need to see healthy affection modeled by their parents, why one spouse prioritizing a career or job over the marriage can be just as damaging as an absentee husband, and how a couple they knew was devastated when a wife chose a job transfer over her marriage. They also discuss financial prioritizing versus overspending on kids’ activities, encouraging parents to let children commit to one activity rather than constantly changing hobbies, and close with reflections on why some people ignore red flags out of loneliness or a mistaken belief they can change their partner.

Topics discussed:

• Modeling healthy affection for children to witness
• Career priorities overtaking a marriage
• Financial pressure from overspending on children’s activities
• Committing children to one activity rather than several
• Loneliness as a reason people ignore relationship red flags
• Believing you can “change” a partner after marriage
• Prioritizing God, spouse, then children

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